1 year later…

It’s been 1 whole year since I left South-African soil…

1 whole year since I’ve gathered with my family or laughed with friends…

1 whole year since I sunk my teeth into a chicken licken hot wing smothered in ‘Soul Fire’ sauce…and while we’re here…1 whole year since I enjoyed a koesister after church on a Sunday – it’s been rough!!!

1 whole year since I’ve heard words like “aweh”, “dumelang” or “haaibo”…also, I never imagined I’d miss seeing people signal an Orange-Farm taxi…but here we are!

It’s been 1 whole year of growing pains and tears…somanytears!

Despite the tears though…I’m having the time of my life!

“Now I’ve had the time of my life…”

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I’m often just gobsmacked with awe and wonder! God has done exceedingly, above and beyond what I ever imagined! He’s gon’ and done it AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN!

New Zealand is an extraordinary place – you can literally be sunbathing on a stunning beach, skiing down a snowy mountain, watching bubbling thermal mud pools, hiking through lush forests, swimming in a hot water beach and so much more within a couple of hours of your front door!

People are laid-back (very laid-back…like seriously laid-back), friendly and generally very helpful. The most surprising thing for me was the diversity…people from all corners of the globe can be found here.

Life is a lot simpler, more…minimal and relaxed. People spend a lot of time outdoors, out on the ocean sailing their boats, fishing, camping, biking etc.

So “outdoorsy” in fact, that my whole outlook on life has changed since moving here. The biggest change in terms of quality of life is health and well-being. With such a strong focus on work-life balance the emphasis on an outdoor lifestyle has forced me to re-think mine (especially after all the comfort eating I’ve done this past year). Now, most weekends you’ll find me walking through the bush or on the beach, playing basketball with the kids in the park or hiking and my all-time-favourite-favourite…  chasing waterfalls (sorry TLC) – who even am I?!?!? And don’t be fooled by my size – these thighs were made for walking and climbing and hiking…not running though…they’re DEFINITELY NOT made for running!

It’s funny…we now have a deeper sense of appreciation of our culture and country of birth…there are numerous things that sets us (Africans) apart – things we probably only realized once we left, and we revel in celebrating this every opportunity we get!

I’ve enjoyed immersing myself in the Māori culture too, watching my kids learn new languages and appreciating how different we all are is quite rewarding.

Overall – I’d say – the impact this move, our new lifestyle and new mindset has had on our family unit (especially our kids) makes every tear worthwhile. We’ve been tested and stretched in every way possible and we’ve grown from it but most of all our faith in God and each other has grown and that brings me peace!

Until next time…

This is my story…PT 1

I’ve been receiving a lot of questions regarding my “testimony” I mentioned in my previous blog post…so I thought I’d do a post around “My Story” to fill everyone in…it’s kinda long so I’ll do it in bits…

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A lil background…

 

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…committed suicide months before my birth…Mom raised myself and my 5 older brothers by herself (yes 5 older brothers) – twas a hard knock life for me LOL!

Early childhood was pretty normal and then at 8 I started gaining weight – it was only well into adulthood that I discovered the reason behind the weight gain… (#METOO).

Since then I gained weight at a steady pace and by high school I was hiding behind baggy tees and jeans ( it was easy to be a tomboy with 5 older brothers). Low self esteem, no confidence, insecure, constantly on diets – I despised the reflection in the mirror!  I started dating my now-husband when I was 17 which was another difficult thing to comprehend – I mean he’s a snack…what did he want with a fat girl like me?!?

Fast forward to 2005…

A year after giving birth to my daughter I’d heard about an affordable weight-loss operation being offered by a doctor in Pretoria – it sounded like a saving grace (and that’s probably what it was but in a totally different way).

I felt like it was my only way out! Being skinny or what was deemed an “acceptable” size was 1 of my dreams…right up there with all my other life goals – that probably sounds shallow to people who can’t relate but…DON’T JUDGE IF YOU’VE NEVER BEEN THERE! Society sucks!!!

I had the op…which worked like this…

A human intestine is roughly 7m long, so the average person would digest meals in 4hrs…mine was bypassed to a mere 30cm so food literally just ran straight through my system…LITERALLY!!!!

From the get-go I experienced various complications ie. Gallstones, acid reflux etc… but the doctor assured me that things would be ok…my weight-loss would eventually stabilize and then stop when I was at the ideal weight for my height.

Within 12 months I had lost an astounding 50kgs – MAMA I MADE IT!!!!! For the 1st time I felt “normal”, “accepted” and I was eager to start living (I was 23 at the time).

January 2007

3 months after our wedding…we were on holiday but something didn’t feel right…I was tired all the time and had muscle pain and then I woke up 1 morning paralyzed! I couldn’t get out of bed, I couldn’t lift my arms or move my legs…that was the scariest moment of my life…I broke down because my husband had to bath me, dress me and comb my hair (AND HIS PONYTAIL WAS THE WORST – MY GOODNESS).

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I was taken straight to ICU with severely depleted EVERYTHING – electrolytes, vitamins, minerals (all stuff I didn’t even know we needed…but ok). Basically my organs were failing and I was dying…WHAAAAAAT – weren’t we on vacay like a minute ago?!?!?!

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But yes…I was in ICU, my organs were failing, all my muscles were in spasms which caused them to contract so I was curled up like someone that had just had a stroke, I couldn’t speak because my tongue (being a muscle too) was twisted and the doctors advised my family to come and say their goodbyes. Doctors didn’t think they could save me!

To be continued…

PS Please excuse the quality of some of the pics…it’s the only ones I have…being so accustomed to hiding from cameras!

PSS Joy comes in the morning…

Thanks for allowing me to share Part 1 with you…I’ll post the next one in a few days!

Much Love xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1 year older 


And a whole weekend of celebrations!

On Saturday I hosted a party to celebrate mine and hubby’s birthdays – mine was yesterday – yay me!!! and hubby’s is tomorrow – yay Bae!!! (Rhyming skills again – LOL).

The theme was “Gender Bender” – All my ladies came dressed as lads and guys came as girls and boy, was it fun!!!


  
  
  


  
  
 The guys really pulled out all the stops for this one and it was worth all the laughs! For once the ladies didn’t have to worry about hair and makeup and partying all night in ridiculously, high heels. Some of the guys actually have newfound respect for us ladies and all we go through to look our best – which brings me to my next point.

I’ve noticed a lot of woman 2 woman hate on social media. Girls dissing other girls for just about anything – she’s so skinny, she’s so fat, look what she’s wearing, look at her hair etc etc etc…like, what’s up with that?

Can we not admire another’s beauty without questioning our own? I honestly don’t know what I would do without the support of the women in my life and that includes people I’ve never met personally but gotten to know through social media. There are countless times when I was feeling some sort of way and I’d log onto Instagram or other and a post will just speak so much life into me. So why then do we choose to use our power and influence to bring our fellow sisters down? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

So, from tomorrow I’ll be posting a #woman2womanwednesday (It’s similar to the #WCW except that it’s exclusive to women – sorry guys!!!) I’ll be using this # every week to salute a woman of my choice – family/friend/follower  – anyone who I feel has inspired me at some point – because let’s be real – sometimes we just gotta hear the good stuff LOL!

So, ladies, please don’t be alarmed if I steal a pic and post some corny stuff about you hahahaha!

  
  
  
  

  
Jeans & Top – Mr Price I Sandals – Fashion Express I Sunnies – Cotton On I Beads – RogeroStyle I Lips – LA Girl Matte Lip in Stunner.

Quote of the Day: 

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. – Audrey Hepburn

Stay Sassy xxx

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