Things I would tell my younger self…

  • God loves you even when you feel unworthy…no…especially when you feel unworthy!

  • Obsessively restricting foods/calories will only lead to uncontrollable binges – don’t do it!

  • Self esteem is exactly what is says…it comes from yourSELF.

  • You are more than the number at the back of your jeans – be more, do more!

  • You are not what happened to you – forgive them.

  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself – you’re too interesting for that!

  • Forgiveness will set you free. Forgive them. Forgive yourself. Just forgive!

  • You will never please everyone all the time – focus on pleasing God.

  • Be a good person but don’t waste your time trying to prove it.

  • Bad company really does corrupt good character.

  • Your Natural hair is beautiful – treat it well.

  • You are different – embrace it.

  • Don’t take yourself too serious – laugh and laugh loud!

  • You might not have known the love of an earthly father but you will learn to know God’s unconditional love and it will change you.

  • You do not need validation to be you.

  • God saved you from a dying bed when doctors said it was over – there is NOTHING He cannot do!

  • You will marry a man who loves you regardless of your weight.

  • You don’t need a lot of friends (the few you have are true).

  • Your purpose is bigger than you – get out of your own way!

  • The very thing you consider a curse is also a blessing (feeling deeply).

  • You are creative – Stop doubting & write, write, write!

  • Drink more water.

  • Dark chocolate is actually quite good.

  • Don’t wait until you’ve lost weight to buy clothes.

  • You can look good at any size.

  • Knowledge is power – chase it!

  • Meekness isn’t weakness – don’t let people make you hard.

  • Stay kind and be kind to yourself too!

  • You will come into your own – be patient.

  • Learn to say NO without explaining yourself.

Jeans & Shirt Dress – Donna | Vest – PnP Clothing | Boots – The Fix | Bag – MRP | Earrings – Jems Of A Natural

Donna without Claire

 

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Today I’d like to chat about Plus Size Brands, well one in particular, Donna – previously known as Donna Claire.

Remember Donna Claire?!?!?

Frumpy, floral frocks that everyone’s great aunt (usually the cat lady) used to love!

Well…after Donna dropped Claire and just became “Donna” they’ve upped their game and brought in some good pieces.

I picked up a few items from them a couple of days ago and I was pleasantly surprised.

Affordable, trendy and the quality was good too!!!

Well done Donna ( Claire was totally the problem)!!!

 

Jeans are always a struggle for me – but these black skinny jeans are super comfy – I did have to tailor the ankle to make it skinnier, but I usually have to do that since I have thin ankles and they were a real steal at R200.00 a pair when Donna (with no Claire) had a sale on all jeans.

The shirt I basically bought because it has little tie details on the sleeves and because it’s white and who doesn’t love a white shirt right?!?!? The shirt is also super comfy and stretchy too. Plus girls love the stretchy stuff!!!

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Don’t ask what I’m looking for…I’m awkward and I have no idea how to pose so there’s that!

Outfit Deets: Jeans & Shirt – Donna / Pumps – Ackermans / Earrings – H&M / Bag – Bata

I picked up some other items from Donna (without Claire) that I’ll show you in another blog post…and I’ll probably pick out some more stuff from them that I’m lusting over…

Like this mesh bomber – Yasssss!!!! (HINT HINT Babe!)

And this soft parka – love!!!!

And these cuties – Must!

The World is changing and I’m so here for it!!!!

Thanks for stopping by!

Lauren xxx

Life @ 35

I have been trying to get this blog post out for days but this flu/sinusitis/infection just wont leave me alone!!!

I celebrated my birthday a few days ago – well…”celebrated” is probably overzealous since I spent the day in bed cuddled up to a box of tissues, pills and orange juice, however, it was my birthday and I’m always grateful for another year of God’s grace!

I’m 35 – eeek!!!! Now, I don’t say that out of fear of aging – I actually love most things that come with aging (operative word being most).

Here’s a list of notable changes – some good, some not so!

  1. Rest is vital – in my 20’s I could survive and function on very little sleep, I healed from sickness or even major ops like my cesarean much quicker than in my 30’s. This past week I had no choice but to take 2-3days in bed just to get over this flu and I mean flat in bed, doing nothing – not even social media!

  2. Signs of aging – Fine lines and dry skin under my eyes have me googling eye creams – and they don’t come cheap y’all – I totally regret every time I rubbed my eyes, damaging that delicate under eye skin – I’m much gentler now (since seeing how expensive those creams are).

  3. Dry skin – I’ve always had oily skin and would skip heavy creams and lotions especially in the summer time but these days I find that half way through the day I’m looking like an ambassador for Lacoste – which also has me googling body butters – I’m such an adult (googling stuff!).

  4. Taste buds – This one is surprising – the older I get the more my palate changes – I now enjoy an array of veggies that I didn’t like in previous years.

  5. Counting pennies – I had a habit of mindlessly buying things for the sake of having new stuff or staying trendy but since trying to live more with less (that happens when you hit mid 30’s – you become all philosophical and stuff) I mostly buy quality, timeless and necessary items (also…I have 3 Kids and private schooling is expensive so I’ve become a cheapskate) – no shame in my game!

  6. Self awareness – I love how aware you become of yourself. Who you’re hanging around, what you’re listening to, what you’re reading, your thoughts, your words. It has brought a sense of peace to my life that I’m so grateful for. Yay for aging!!!

  7. No – It was never a word I could say (except to my kids). But I’m learning that it’s necessary for my sanity and emotional and mental health. It’s still hard though, but I’m getting better at it (except when it comes to chocolate- that’s still considerably hard).

  8. Do you – it’s easy to get sucked in by people’s lives on social media – for the longest time I’ve compared my blog or content to others and always felt like mine came up short, however, I’ve since learned that we’re all different, we all have different lives and we all have different stories to tell. I love inspiring people with my testimony – I believe that God saved my life for His glory and my testimony will always be a part of who I am.

Those are some things I wanted to share with you since hitting the mid-30 mark. I wanted to make it a list of 10 ( I mean who makes a list of 8 things) – (adulting is also making a lot of lists about stuff) but I’ve reached my philosophical quota for the day so that’ll have to do.

Thank you for reading and stay sassy xxx

Top: Makro | Pants: Old | Shoes: MRP | Bag: Old | Earrings: ByMissVoe (she’s got all the good stuff y’all – go check it out!)

Sleeveless Coat 

  
Hey Gorgeous Peeps! 

Firstly, let me say that South-African weather is totally bipolar. Yesterday was extremely cold and wet and today, albeit a little windy, the sun’s shining and the weather’s fine – as if yesterday never happened at all! 

I might have been more than a little excited when the weather turned cold and rainy yesterday, just so I could pull out this sleeveless Melton coat I purchased from Fablane Online – ha ha! 

Thank you Michelle at Fablane Online – your service and the quality of your goods are superb – totally worth every cent! 

Ladies, head on over to her Instagram profile here and check out all the trendy items she stocks! 

   
    
     

  

      

   
Sleeveless Coat – Fablane Online | Jeans & Sunnies – MrP | Long Sleeve Tee – PnP Clothing | Shoes – Legit | Bag – Truworths 

Quote of the Day:  
 

1 Year Blogiversary!!!

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Wow!!!! All About That Bass turns 1 – that’s right – 1 year ago I hit the publish button on my very 1st post. I had no idea what to expect as I set off on this blogging adventure, all I knew was that I had a deep desire to reach out to those who thought that you had to look a certain way to look or feel beautiful.

It wasn’t (and still isn’t) about the likes or comments or the number of followers – NO – it’s never about something as superficial as that – this blog was birthed from a desire to uplift and inspire women just like me – who often measure their worth by the number on the scale.

Looking back on the past year – I have to admit – this blog has forced me to grow in ways I never imagined. It has been such an amazing journey of learning, sharing, friendship and most of all gratitude!

Every e- mail subscriber, Facebook “like”, share and comment!

Everyone who follows me on Instagram and Pinterest!

All of the likes, pins and comments on the posts I’ve shared!

The sweet bloggers who include me in their blogroll!

A huge and heart-warming THANK YOU!

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To celebrate, I will be giving away these 3 Revlon products to 1 lucky reader, all you have to do to enter is comment on this post and tell me what you love most about this blog!

(Please note – only people in S.A)

 

Thank you for reading & remember to stay sassy

Lu

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Hello Lovely People!!!

 

Ok – wasn’t it just New Year’s a minute ago?!?

And now Easter is already upon us – whoa – the days seem to be flying past!

Today I’m channeling my inner College-Girl! I guess it’s the jacket and the twin buns – LOL!

I often keep my looks quite simple – I can be a plain-Jane like that – less is certainly more for me. That applies to make-up as well, most days I just throw on some mascara and lipgloss and I’m out the door!

I do admire ladies who go all out with hair and make-up though…I’m a bit of a tomboy – growing up with 5 older brothers and being the only girl – I guess it’s expected.

I totally love these cute, silver lace-ups I picked up from Mr P a while ago. I think they give this simple outfit that extra oomph!

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Jeans – Truworths | Tank – PnP Clothing | Jacket & Shoes – MrP | Earrings & Sunnies – Gifted



Fun Fashion Fact:

 

“10.7 billion pounds ($16.3 billion) spent on fashion online in the U.K. in 2014 (expected to reach 19 billion pounds by 2019), according to Mintel.”

Stay Sassy xxx

Lu

Lacking Symmetry 

   
 Yes, I know I could’ve just said assymtrecial but I like the sound of lacking symmetry – ha ha! 

I love this assymetrical top, comfy and light, and hides all my problem areas. 

Paired here with my pleather leggings and some heels, and it’s perfect for a night out with the hubster! 

   
    
    
    
   

Top – China Town | Leggings – Truworths | Shoes – Ackermans | Earrings – MrP

Just so you know- assymetrical clothing were hot at New York Fashion Week Fall/Winter 2015/2016.

Stay Sassy xxx

Lu 

Confidence 

  
“Confidence isn’t walking into a room knowing they’ll like you – It’s – I’ll be ok if they don’t!” 

And that is where I’m at at this point in my life. 

Darn! It took me long enough – almost 30years!!!!

And although my circle has decreased in size it’s increased in value. 

I know what I bring to any relationship/ friendship – be it friend, family, spouse. I no longer fret about who’s real and who’s not. And it’s made me a happier person. 

   
    
    
  
Jeans, shirt, neckpiece, sunnies, earrings – MrP | Shoes – Truworths | Lips – LA Girl matte gloss in Stunner. 

Fun Fashion Fact: 

“The average person owns 7 pairs of blue jeans.”

Stay Sassy xxx

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Day to Night 

  
How sick is this drawing of me?!?!? A very talented friend did this portrait for me and I’m so amazed at the detail. It’s pretty darn awesome!!!

  
Back to the post…

This past weekend I attended a friend’s birthday party. It was a very casual, Saturday night braai so I opted for comfy and casual in this jumpsuit paired with flats. 

   
    
 I was contemplating wearing this jumpsuit again (but decided against it) to a more formal party so I played around with it to take the outfit from a day to night look. Just swapped out the shoes and accessories and boom – ready for a night out!!!

  

  

  

  

  

  

            
Jumpsuit – China Town | Flats – Fashion Express | Heels – Ackermans | Beads – RogéroStyle | Neckpiece – MrP | Portrait – F.A.B – go get yours!!!

Fun Fashion Fact from the Book – Mind What You Wear!

“People who dress like the boss are more likely to be appointed and get promoted quicker.”

Stay Sassy xxx

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Chaos and the Calm

  
I’ve had this song on repeat today. Maybe because that’s what I feel like sometimes. 

You know when you’re on a path to recovery and you’ve actually been breaking ground and out of nowhere, someone or something comes along that threatens to shake everything? 

Yeah! I’ve had to dig my heels in deep. I’m not going back there. Nope!!! Not ever!!! I might visit sometimes (LOL) but I ain’t staying! 

I’m working on myself for myself because I don’t want to be that girl. That girl who looks for validation in others. That girl who wants to be accepted. That girl who spends her days trying to prove herself. I refuse to go back!!!

This might shake me, but I won’t let it break me! 

   
    
    
    
    
    
 Jeans, sunnies & earrings – MrP | Top – Gifted | Shoes – Fashion Express | Beads – RogéroStyle

“The Lord will perfect that which concerns me.” Psalm 138:8

Stay Sassy xxx

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