Things I would tell my younger self…

  • God loves you even when you feel unworthy…no…especially when you feel unworthy!

  • Obsessively restricting foods/calories will only lead to uncontrollable binges – don’t do it!

  • Self esteem is exactly what is says…it comes from yourSELF.

  • You are more than the number at the back of your jeans – be more, do more!

  • You are not what happened to you – forgive them.

  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself – you’re too interesting for that!

  • Forgiveness will set you free. Forgive them. Forgive yourself. Just forgive!

  • You will never please everyone all the time – focus on pleasing God.

  • Be a good person but don’t waste your time trying to prove it.

  • Bad company really does corrupt good character.

  • Your Natural hair is beautiful – treat it well.

  • You are different – embrace it.

  • Don’t take yourself too serious – laugh and laugh loud!

  • You might not have known the love of an earthly father but you will learn to know God’s unconditional love and it will change you.

  • You do not need validation to be you.

  • God saved you from a dying bed when doctors said it was over – there is NOTHING He cannot do!

  • You will marry a man who loves you regardless of your weight.

  • You don’t need a lot of friends (the few you have are true).

  • Your purpose is bigger than you – get out of your own way!

  • The very thing you consider a curse is also a blessing (feeling deeply).

  • You are creative – Stop doubting & write, write, write!

  • Drink more water.

  • Dark chocolate is actually quite good.

  • Don’t wait until you’ve lost weight to buy clothes.

  • You can look good at any size.

  • Knowledge is power – chase it!

  • Meekness isn’t weakness – don’t let people make you hard.

  • Stay kind and be kind to yourself too!

  • You will come into your own – be patient.

  • Learn to say NO without explaining yourself.

Jeans & Shirt Dress – Donna | Vest – PnP Clothing | Boots – The Fix | Bag – MRP | Earrings – Jems Of A Natural

Donna without Claire

 

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Today I’d like to chat about Plus Size Brands, well one in particular, Donna – previously known as Donna Claire.

Remember Donna Claire?!?!?

Frumpy, floral frocks that everyone’s great aunt (usually the cat lady) used to love!

Well…after Donna dropped Claire and just became “Donna” they’ve upped their game and brought in some good pieces.

I picked up a few items from them a couple of days ago and I was pleasantly surprised.

Affordable, trendy and the quality was good too!!!

Well done Donna ( Claire was totally the problem)!!!

 

Jeans are always a struggle for me – but these black skinny jeans are super comfy – I did have to tailor the ankle to make it skinnier, but I usually have to do that since I have thin ankles and they were a real steal at R200.00 a pair when Donna (with no Claire) had a sale on all jeans.

The shirt I basically bought because it has little tie details on the sleeves and because it’s white and who doesn’t love a white shirt right?!?!? The shirt is also super comfy and stretchy too. Plus girls love the stretchy stuff!!!

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Don’t ask what I’m looking for…I’m awkward and I have no idea how to pose so there’s that!

Outfit Deets: Jeans & Shirt – Donna / Pumps – Ackermans / Earrings – H&M / Bag – Bata

I picked up some other items from Donna (without Claire) that I’ll show you in another blog post…and I’ll probably pick out some more stuff from them that I’m lusting over…

Like this mesh bomber – Yasssss!!!! (HINT HINT Babe!)

And this soft parka – love!!!!

And these cuties – Must!

The World is changing and I’m so here for it!!!!

Thanks for stopping by!

Lauren xxx

Life @ 35

I have been trying to get this blog post out for days but this flu/sinusitis/infection just wont leave me alone!!!

I celebrated my birthday a few days ago – well…”celebrated” is probably overzealous since I spent the day in bed cuddled up to a box of tissues, pills and orange juice, however, it was my birthday and I’m always grateful for another year of God’s grace!

I’m 35 – eeek!!!! Now, I don’t say that out of fear of aging – I actually love most things that come with aging (operative word being most).

Here’s a list of notable changes – some good, some not so!

  1. Rest is vital – in my 20’s I could survive and function on very little sleep, I healed from sickness or even major ops like my cesarean much quicker than in my 30’s. This past week I had no choice but to take 2-3days in bed just to get over this flu and I mean flat in bed, doing nothing – not even social media!

  2. Signs of aging – Fine lines and dry skin under my eyes have me googling eye creams – and they don’t come cheap y’all – I totally regret every time I rubbed my eyes, damaging that delicate under eye skin – I’m much gentler now (since seeing how expensive those creams are).

  3. Dry skin – I’ve always had oily skin and would skip heavy creams and lotions especially in the summer time but these days I find that half way through the day I’m looking like an ambassador for Lacoste – which also has me googling body butters – I’m such an adult (googling stuff!).

  4. Taste buds – This one is surprising – the older I get the more my palate changes – I now enjoy an array of veggies that I didn’t like in previous years.

  5. Counting pennies – I had a habit of mindlessly buying things for the sake of having new stuff or staying trendy but since trying to live more with less (that happens when you hit mid 30’s – you become all philosophical and stuff) I mostly buy quality, timeless and necessary items (also…I have 3 Kids and private schooling is expensive so I’ve become a cheapskate) – no shame in my game!

  6. Self awareness – I love how aware you become of yourself. Who you’re hanging around, what you’re listening to, what you’re reading, your thoughts, your words. It has brought a sense of peace to my life that I’m so grateful for. Yay for aging!!!

  7. No – It was never a word I could say (except to my kids). But I’m learning that it’s necessary for my sanity and emotional and mental health. It’s still hard though, but I’m getting better at it (except when it comes to chocolate- that’s still considerably hard).

  8. Do you – it’s easy to get sucked in by people’s lives on social media – for the longest time I’ve compared my blog or content to others and always felt like mine came up short, however, I’ve since learned that we’re all different, we all have different lives and we all have different stories to tell. I love inspiring people with my testimony – I believe that God saved my life for His glory and my testimony will always be a part of who I am.

Those are some things I wanted to share with you since hitting the mid-30 mark. I wanted to make it a list of 10 ( I mean who makes a list of 8 things) – (adulting is also making a lot of lists about stuff) but I’ve reached my philosophical quota for the day so that’ll have to do.

Thank you for reading and stay sassy xxx

Top: Makro | Pants: Old | Shoes: MRP | Bag: Old | Earrings: ByMissVoe (she’s got all the good stuff y’all – go check it out!)

I forget but God…

Hey Beautiful People 

Here’s a funny story…not funny like ha ha but you know…

My confidence as a person and as a blogger has taken a serious beating since gaining weight. Last year I was able to drop a good amount of weight – not really intentionally though – I had a really trying year, my personal & spiritual life were a mess, I was stressed and depressed and honestly, I hardly ate. I’m a happy eater – so therefore we can conclude that I am happy a lot of the time…ha ha! 

Because of this I’ve been unmotivated to blog or even shop – I’m sure many of you can relate – but God has a way of always reminding me where He’s brought me from. 


This morning I picked up this stethoscope for a cousin (her kid needed 1 for a school project) but it instantly reminded me of the time I was expecting Aimee. 

A little scene-setting…

I’d had a weight loss op done a few years prior to falling pregnant and I wasn’t in very good health. I started off at 63kgs in the beginning of my pregnancy and by the 7th month I’d dropped to 40kgs. I was sick, in constant pain, I wasn’t eating and numerous times I contemplated suicide (the pain was that bad). I remember being in such tremendous pain and speaking such horrible words during my pregnancy – death, abortion, suicide – to name a few and yet at the same time I prayed that little Aimee would make it. 

I purchased 1 of these stethoscopes because I was so afraid that she’d die inside my womb. The pain would keep me awake at night and I’d lie there with my stethoscope trying to make sure I could hear her heart beat – I’m not sure if I did hear it – but that’s what I did! 

Aimee had to be delivered prematurely, she just wasn’t thriving inside my womb so at 7months she was born at a tiny 1.4kgs – literally just skin and bone. She stayed in Neo ICU for close to 3 weeks and it was the hardest 3 weeks of my life. I blamed myself for everything that happened to her – it was all those terrible things I spoke over her – I’d say – but I was in so much pain that I just wasn’t thinking clearly – I know that’s no excuse though! 


This was a month before Aimee was delivered ☝🏽


Today God reminded me of His awesome, miracle-working power. He reminded me where He brought me from ( a dying bed in Milpark ICU), He reminded me that my story, my message, is so much more than anything as superficial as my weight. I look at Aimee and I’m in awe of Him – that even in my weakness, my pain, my sickness, He had a plan for us. I am so much more than the number on the back of my jeans. 

I’ll be doing a blog post on my story soon!


Thank You for the reminder Lord. 

Stay Slayin & Stay Prayin y’all 

Lu xxx 

1 Year Blogiversary!!!

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Wow!!!! All About That Bass turns 1 – that’s right – 1 year ago I hit the publish button on my very 1st post. I had no idea what to expect as I set off on this blogging adventure, all I knew was that I had a deep desire to reach out to those who thought that you had to look a certain way to look or feel beautiful.

It wasn’t (and still isn’t) about the likes or comments or the number of followers – NO – it’s never about something as superficial as that – this blog was birthed from a desire to uplift and inspire women just like me – who often measure their worth by the number on the scale.

Looking back on the past year – I have to admit – this blog has forced me to grow in ways I never imagined. It has been such an amazing journey of learning, sharing, friendship and most of all gratitude!

Every e- mail subscriber, Facebook “like”, share and comment!

Everyone who follows me on Instagram and Pinterest!

All of the likes, pins and comments on the posts I’ve shared!

The sweet bloggers who include me in their blogroll!

A huge and heart-warming THANK YOU!

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To celebrate, I will be giving away these 3 Revlon products to 1 lucky reader, all you have to do to enter is comment on this post and tell me what you love most about this blog!

(Please note – only people in S.A)

 

Thank you for reading & remember to stay sassy

Lu

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Jeans and Tee

  
I’ve always loved the simplicity of a jeans and tee, although I’ve always felt that because of my size I just wouldn’t be able to pull it off. 

Well, well, well, look what we have here – stupid negative thoughts – It’s me – in a simple jeans and tee!!! 

Liberation – ha! 

    
         

     

 Top to toe – Mr P

QOTD 

“Fashion really is women’s liberation”- Iris Apfel

Stay sassy xxx
   

Confidence 

  
“Confidence isn’t walking into a room knowing they’ll like you – It’s – I’ll be ok if they don’t!” 

And that is where I’m at at this point in my life. 

Darn! It took me long enough – almost 30years!!!!

And although my circle has decreased in size it’s increased in value. 

I know what I bring to any relationship/ friendship – be it friend, family, spouse. I no longer fret about who’s real and who’s not. And it’s made me a happier person. 

   
    
    
  
Jeans, shirt, neckpiece, sunnies, earrings – MrP | Shoes – Truworths | Lips – LA Girl matte gloss in Stunner. 

Fun Fashion Fact: 

“The average person owns 7 pairs of blue jeans.”

Stay Sassy xxx

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1 year older 


And a whole weekend of celebrations!

On Saturday I hosted a party to celebrate mine and hubby’s birthdays – mine was yesterday – yay me!!! and hubby’s is tomorrow – yay Bae!!! (Rhyming skills again – LOL).

The theme was “Gender Bender” – All my ladies came dressed as lads and guys came as girls and boy, was it fun!!!


  
  
  


  
  
 The guys really pulled out all the stops for this one and it was worth all the laughs! For once the ladies didn’t have to worry about hair and makeup and partying all night in ridiculously, high heels. Some of the guys actually have newfound respect for us ladies and all we go through to look our best – which brings me to my next point.

I’ve noticed a lot of woman 2 woman hate on social media. Girls dissing other girls for just about anything – she’s so skinny, she’s so fat, look what she’s wearing, look at her hair etc etc etc…like, what’s up with that?

Can we not admire another’s beauty without questioning our own? I honestly don’t know what I would do without the support of the women in my life and that includes people I’ve never met personally but gotten to know through social media. There are countless times when I was feeling some sort of way and I’d log onto Instagram or other and a post will just speak so much life into me. So why then do we choose to use our power and influence to bring our fellow sisters down? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

So, from tomorrow I’ll be posting a #woman2womanwednesday (It’s similar to the #WCW except that it’s exclusive to women – sorry guys!!!) I’ll be using this # every week to salute a woman of my choice – family/friend/follower  – anyone who I feel has inspired me at some point – because let’s be real – sometimes we just gotta hear the good stuff LOL!

So, ladies, please don’t be alarmed if I steal a pic and post some corny stuff about you hahahaha!

  
  
  
  

  
Jeans & Top – Mr Price I Sandals – Fashion Express I Sunnies – Cotton On I Beads – RogeroStyle I Lips – LA Girl Matte Lip in Stunner.

Quote of the Day: 

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. – Audrey Hepburn

Stay Sassy xxx

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My kinda LBD

  
These days I prefer loose, flowy dresses over anything even slightly clingy. I don’t go anywhere near my jeans or any kind of pants for that matter – it’s just too hot for that kinda commitment LOL!

And like I’ve mentioned in a previous post, you can never go wrong with a black dress.

I had this one custom made by the talented ladies at Fleur Fashion House – I also have the same dress in grey – you can have a look here.

  

    
    
    
    
   
Dress – Fleur Fashion House | Sandals & Neckpiece – MrP | Earrings – Truworths 

My 6yr old takes such lovely pics, except for the ugly lawn mower in the back hahaha!

PS: Check my son attempting to clean the garden – such a busy boy ❤️

Fashion Term Of The Day:

Appliqué 

Definition: A decorative design made of one piece of fabric sewn on top of another. 

Stay Sassy xxx

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#FatGirlProblems 

  

  
So this top is actually a dress but it’s far too short to be worn as such so, yeah …#fatgirlproblems. 

It’s really pretty though, the pattern, the colours, the style, pity I can’t wear as a dress! 

  

   

    

    

    

  


 
 
Top/Dress – MrP | Skinny Jeans – Dunns Clothing | Wedge Heels & Earrings  – Truworths. 

Fun Fashion Fact: 

“During the different eras, women applied color to their faces by various means. In Cleopatra’s time, berries and other natural ingredients were used as makeup to enhance the face.”

Stay Sassy xxx

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