Things I would tell my younger self…

  • God loves you even when you feel unworthy…no…especially when you feel unworthy!

  • Obsessively restricting foods/calories will only lead to uncontrollable binges – don’t do it!

  • Self esteem is exactly what is says…it comes from yourSELF.

  • You are more than the number at the back of your jeans – be more, do more!

  • You are not what happened to you – forgive them.

  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself – you’re too interesting for that!

  • Forgiveness will set you free. Forgive them. Forgive yourself. Just forgive!

  • You will never please everyone all the time – focus on pleasing God.

  • Be a good person but don’t waste your time trying to prove it.

  • Bad company really does corrupt good character.

  • Your Natural hair is beautiful – treat it well.

  • You are different – embrace it.

  • Don’t take yourself too serious – laugh and laugh loud!

  • You might not have known the love of an earthly father but you will learn to know God’s unconditional love and it will change you.

  • You do not need validation to be you.

  • God saved you from a dying bed when doctors said it was over – there is NOTHING He cannot do!

  • You will marry a man who loves you regardless of your weight.

  • You don’t need a lot of friends (the few you have are true).

  • Your purpose is bigger than you – get out of your own way!

  • The very thing you consider a curse is also a blessing (feeling deeply).

  • You are creative – Stop doubting & write, write, write!

  • Drink more water.

  • Dark chocolate is actually quite good.

  • Don’t wait until you’ve lost weight to buy clothes.

  • You can look good at any size.

  • Knowledge is power – chase it!

  • Meekness isn’t weakness – don’t let people make you hard.

  • Stay kind and be kind to yourself too!

  • You will come into your own – be patient.

  • Learn to say NO without explaining yourself.

Jeans & Shirt Dress – Donna | Vest – PnP Clothing | Boots – The Fix | Bag – MRP | Earrings – Jems Of A Natural

Donna without Claire

 

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Today I’d like to chat about Plus Size Brands, well one in particular, Donna – previously known as Donna Claire.

Remember Donna Claire?!?!?

Frumpy, floral frocks that everyone’s great aunt (usually the cat lady) used to love!

Well…after Donna dropped Claire and just became “Donna” they’ve upped their game and brought in some good pieces.

I picked up a few items from them a couple of days ago and I was pleasantly surprised.

Affordable, trendy and the quality was good too!!!

Well done Donna ( Claire was totally the problem)!!!

 

Jeans are always a struggle for me – but these black skinny jeans are super comfy – I did have to tailor the ankle to make it skinnier, but I usually have to do that since I have thin ankles and they were a real steal at R200.00 a pair when Donna (with no Claire) had a sale on all jeans.

The shirt I basically bought because it has little tie details on the sleeves and because it’s white and who doesn’t love a white shirt right?!?!? The shirt is also super comfy and stretchy too. Plus girls love the stretchy stuff!!!

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Don’t ask what I’m looking for…I’m awkward and I have no idea how to pose so there’s that!

Outfit Deets: Jeans & Shirt – Donna / Pumps – Ackermans / Earrings – H&M / Bag – Bata

I picked up some other items from Donna (without Claire) that I’ll show you in another blog post…and I’ll probably pick out some more stuff from them that I’m lusting over…

Like this mesh bomber – Yasssss!!!! (HINT HINT Babe!)

And this soft parka – love!!!!

And these cuties – Must!

The World is changing and I’m so here for it!!!!

Thanks for stopping by!

Lauren xxx

This is my story…PT 1

I’ve been receiving a lot of questions regarding my “testimony” I mentioned in my previous blog post…so I thought I’d do a post around “My Story” to fill everyone in…it’s kinda long so I’ll do it in bits…

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A lil background…

 

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…committed suicide months before my birth…Mom raised myself and my 5 older brothers by herself (yes 5 older brothers) – twas a hard knock life for me LOL!

Early childhood was pretty normal and then at 8 I started gaining weight – it was only well into adulthood that I discovered the reason behind the weight gain… (#METOO).

Since then I gained weight at a steady pace and by high school I was hiding behind baggy tees and jeans ( it was easy to be a tomboy with 5 older brothers). Low self esteem, no confidence, insecure, constantly on diets – I despised the reflection in the mirror!  I started dating my now-husband when I was 17 which was another difficult thing to comprehend – I mean he’s a snack…what did he want with a fat girl like me?!?

Fast forward to 2005…

A year after giving birth to my daughter I’d heard about an affordable weight-loss operation being offered by a doctor in Pretoria – it sounded like a saving grace (and that’s probably what it was but in a totally different way).

I felt like it was my only way out! Being skinny or what was deemed an “acceptable” size was 1 of my dreams…right up there with all my other life goals – that probably sounds shallow to people who can’t relate but…DON’T JUDGE IF YOU’VE NEVER BEEN THERE! Society sucks!!!

I had the op…which worked like this…

A human intestine is roughly 7m long, so the average person would digest meals in 4hrs…mine was bypassed to a mere 30cm so food literally just ran straight through my system…LITERALLY!!!!

From the get-go I experienced various complications ie. Gallstones, acid reflux etc… but the doctor assured me that things would be ok…my weight-loss would eventually stabilize and then stop when I was at the ideal weight for my height.

Within 12 months I had lost an astounding 50kgs – MAMA I MADE IT!!!!! For the 1st time I felt “normal”, “accepted” and I was eager to start living (I was 23 at the time).

January 2007

3 months after our wedding…we were on holiday but something didn’t feel right…I was tired all the time and had muscle pain and then I woke up 1 morning paralyzed! I couldn’t get out of bed, I couldn’t lift my arms or move my legs…that was the scariest moment of my life…I broke down because my husband had to bath me, dress me and comb my hair (AND HIS PONYTAIL WAS THE WORST – MY GOODNESS).

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I was taken straight to ICU with severely depleted EVERYTHING – electrolytes, vitamins, minerals (all stuff I didn’t even know we needed…but ok). Basically my organs were failing and I was dying…WHAAAAAAT – weren’t we on vacay like a minute ago?!?!?!

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But yes…I was in ICU, my organs were failing, all my muscles were in spasms which caused them to contract so I was curled up like someone that had just had a stroke, I couldn’t speak because my tongue (being a muscle too) was twisted and the doctors advised my family to come and say their goodbyes. Doctors didn’t think they could save me!

To be continued…

PS Please excuse the quality of some of the pics…it’s the only ones I have…being so accustomed to hiding from cameras!

PSS Joy comes in the morning…

Thanks for allowing me to share Part 1 with you…I’ll post the next one in a few days!

Much Love xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life @ 35

I have been trying to get this blog post out for days but this flu/sinusitis/infection just wont leave me alone!!!

I celebrated my birthday a few days ago – well…”celebrated” is probably overzealous since I spent the day in bed cuddled up to a box of tissues, pills and orange juice, however, it was my birthday and I’m always grateful for another year of God’s grace!

I’m 35 – eeek!!!! Now, I don’t say that out of fear of aging – I actually love most things that come with aging (operative word being most).

Here’s a list of notable changes – some good, some not so!

  1. Rest is vital – in my 20’s I could survive and function on very little sleep, I healed from sickness or even major ops like my cesarean much quicker than in my 30’s. This past week I had no choice but to take 2-3days in bed just to get over this flu and I mean flat in bed, doing nothing – not even social media!

  2. Signs of aging – Fine lines and dry skin under my eyes have me googling eye creams – and they don’t come cheap y’all – I totally regret every time I rubbed my eyes, damaging that delicate under eye skin – I’m much gentler now (since seeing how expensive those creams are).

  3. Dry skin – I’ve always had oily skin and would skip heavy creams and lotions especially in the summer time but these days I find that half way through the day I’m looking like an ambassador for Lacoste – which also has me googling body butters – I’m such an adult (googling stuff!).

  4. Taste buds – This one is surprising – the older I get the more my palate changes – I now enjoy an array of veggies that I didn’t like in previous years.

  5. Counting pennies – I had a habit of mindlessly buying things for the sake of having new stuff or staying trendy but since trying to live more with less (that happens when you hit mid 30’s – you become all philosophical and stuff) I mostly buy quality, timeless and necessary items (also…I have 3 Kids and private schooling is expensive so I’ve become a cheapskate) – no shame in my game!

  6. Self awareness – I love how aware you become of yourself. Who you’re hanging around, what you’re listening to, what you’re reading, your thoughts, your words. It has brought a sense of peace to my life that I’m so grateful for. Yay for aging!!!

  7. No – It was never a word I could say (except to my kids). But I’m learning that it’s necessary for my sanity and emotional and mental health. It’s still hard though, but I’m getting better at it (except when it comes to chocolate- that’s still considerably hard).

  8. Do you – it’s easy to get sucked in by people’s lives on social media – for the longest time I’ve compared my blog or content to others and always felt like mine came up short, however, I’ve since learned that we’re all different, we all have different lives and we all have different stories to tell. I love inspiring people with my testimony – I believe that God saved my life for His glory and my testimony will always be a part of who I am.

Those are some things I wanted to share with you since hitting the mid-30 mark. I wanted to make it a list of 10 ( I mean who makes a list of 8 things) – (adulting is also making a lot of lists about stuff) but I’ve reached my philosophical quota for the day so that’ll have to do.

Thank you for reading and stay sassy xxx

Top: Makro | Pants: Old | Shoes: MRP | Bag: Old | Earrings: ByMissVoe (she’s got all the good stuff y’all – go check it out!)

Bata Shoes

Bata Shoes launched their new range called Insolia and I was so blessed to be spoiled with a pair in the loveliest deep red – yayness!!! 



Now, as a heavier girl, I tend to avoid heels as they can be quite uncomfortable and painful – I guess being heavier on my feet adds more pressure on the forefoot – BUT – as you can see, the shoe is designed to reduce forefoot pressure and allows for even weight distribution – and let me tell you – THEY AIN’T LYING Y’ALL!

I was able to dine and dance the night away in these babies with zero discomfort! I’ll definitely be adding a few pairs from the range to my shoe collection! 


Thank you to Bata Shoes for the spoil and for getting it precisely right with this design! 

Thanks for stopping by and stay sassy now! 

Lu xxx 

It’s my birthday & I’ll cry if I want to…

Happy Tears y’all, happy tears!!!

34 years old – whaaaaaaaaat?!?!? Didn’t I just turn 30 a minute ago!?!?!

I must admit though, I love getting older – no really – I do!!! When I think of the shy, scared, ashamed-of-some-extra-weight-girl I was back then compared to who I am now – wow!!!! Growth! 

Look, I’m not saying I’m on some Kanye West confidence level right now (ha ha) but I’m a hellavu lot more comfortable being me and that makes my heart happy! 

Skirt, shoes & earrings  – Truworths | Top & sunnies – Mr P | Choker – RogéroStyle
Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!

Stay Sassy now xxx

Lu

Blasting into Spring like!


Hello Beauties!

Notice I said “blasting” because honestly – I’m just tired of winter! Only a couple more days for Spring though! Yay!

It’s been quite warm recently, although there’s still a slight chill in the air with winter on its way out, especially in the early mornings but today I threw caution to the wind. 

I thought I’d probably be a little cold in sandals and an off shoulder dress but the rebel in me just couldn’t!!! Luckily it turned out to be a rather fine day so no blue toes over here – ha ha!

How cute is this dress though?!?! Another one of Fablane Online’s gems. You can check out her merchandise here


Dress – Fablane Online | Sandals & earrings – MRP | Headscarf – Gifted | Chocker – RogéroStyle

Stay Sassy xxx 

Lu 

Honey, I’m home!!!


Hello There, allow me to introduce myself ha ha! 

I’ve been ghost for a while – Mom Duties – but boy did I miss blogging! So glad to be back!

Here’s what had me MIA!


Yes, it was my kid’s Drum Majorette Nationals Competitions and it was awesome! Brings me so much joy to watch her & the team on that field – the blood, sweat & tears that go into every march – gives me goosies everytime! 

Anyway, the outfit I’m wearing, this wasn’t the outfit I planned but I kinda, sorta overslept this morning so I literally just grabbed whatever was close – don’t judge me – winter has me snoozing through the most annoying alarm every morning – I’m just as surprised lol!




Coated Leggings – Always New (China Town) | Tank, Jacket, heels & neckpiece – MrP | Bag – Truworths 


Stay Sassy xxx

Lu

Breaking Rules


If I had a dime for every time (my rhymes are tight though LOL) I was told that “fat girls should NEVER, EVER wear white” – oops…sorry…NOT sorry!!!

Yes, this is me, in my fat thighs and fat tummy and fat arms – rocking ALL white AND taking pictures of my fat body in my ALL white outfit – omg…the audacity!  Ha ha!

You know what they say about rules…yep, I broke ’em!

There is NO right way to have a body and there is absolutely NO reason why fat girls cannot wear whatever they please,  so rock your white with confidence my beauties!

How fabulous is this shirt from FabLane Online ?!?! It’s giving me all the feels right now – thank you Michelle.

Skinny jeans, earrings, belt & sunnies – MRP | shirt – FabLane Online | heels & bag  – Truworths

Stay sassy now xxx

Lu

1 Year Blogiversary!!!

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Wow!!!! All About That Bass turns 1 – that’s right – 1 year ago I hit the publish button on my very 1st post. I had no idea what to expect as I set off on this blogging adventure, all I knew was that I had a deep desire to reach out to those who thought that you had to look a certain way to look or feel beautiful.

It wasn’t (and still isn’t) about the likes or comments or the number of followers – NO – it’s never about something as superficial as that – this blog was birthed from a desire to uplift and inspire women just like me – who often measure their worth by the number on the scale.

Looking back on the past year – I have to admit – this blog has forced me to grow in ways I never imagined. It has been such an amazing journey of learning, sharing, friendship and most of all gratitude!

Every e- mail subscriber, Facebook “like”, share and comment!

Everyone who follows me on Instagram and Pinterest!

All of the likes, pins and comments on the posts I’ve shared!

The sweet bloggers who include me in their blogroll!

A huge and heart-warming THANK YOU!

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To celebrate, I will be giving away these 3 Revlon products to 1 lucky reader, all you have to do to enter is comment on this post and tell me what you love most about this blog!

(Please note – only people in S.A)

 

Thank you for reading & remember to stay sassy

Lu

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