1 year later…

It’s been 1 whole year since I left South-African soil…

1 whole year since I’ve gathered with my family or laughed with friends…

1 whole year since I sunk my teeth into a chicken licken hot wing smothered in ‘Soul Fire’ sauce…and while we’re here…1 whole year since I enjoyed a koesister after church on a Sunday – it’s been rough!!!

1 whole year since I’ve heard words like “aweh”, “dumelang” or “haaibo”…also, I never imagined I’d miss seeing people signal an Orange-Farm taxi…but here we are!

It’s been 1 whole year of growing pains and tears…somanytears!

Despite the tears though…I’m having the time of my life!

“Now I’ve had the time of my life…”

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I’m often just gobsmacked with awe and wonder! God has done exceedingly, above and beyond what I ever imagined! He’s gon’ and done it AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN!

New Zealand is an extraordinary place – you can literally be sunbathing on a stunning beach, skiing down a snowy mountain, watching bubbling thermal mud pools, hiking through lush forests, swimming in a hot water beach and so much more within a couple of hours of your front door!

People are laid-back (very laid-back…like seriously laid-back), friendly and generally very helpful. The most surprising thing for me was the diversity…people from all corners of the globe can be found here.

Life is a lot simpler, more…minimal and relaxed. People spend a lot of time outdoors, out on the ocean sailing their boats, fishing, camping, biking etc.

So “outdoorsy” in fact, that my whole outlook on life has changed since moving here. The biggest change in terms of quality of life is health and well-being. With such a strong focus on work-life balance the emphasis on an outdoor lifestyle has forced me to re-think mine (especially after all the comfort eating I’ve done this past year). Now, most weekends you’ll find me walking through the bush or on the beach, playing basketball with the kids in the park or hiking and my all-time-favourite-favourite…  chasing waterfalls (sorry TLC) – who even am I?!?!? And don’t be fooled by my size – these thighs were made for walking and climbing and hiking…not running though…they’re DEFINITELY NOT made for running!

It’s funny…we now have a deeper sense of appreciation of our culture and country of birth…there are numerous things that sets us (Africans) apart – things we probably only realized once we left, and we revel in celebrating this every opportunity we get!

I’ve enjoyed immersing myself in the Māori culture too, watching my kids learn new languages and appreciating how different we all are is quite rewarding.

Overall – I’d say – the impact this move, our new lifestyle and new mindset has had on our family unit (especially our kids) makes every tear worthwhile. We’ve been tested and stretched in every way possible and we’ve grown from it but most of all our faith in God and each other has grown and that brings me peace!

Until next time…

This is no longer MY story…but God’s Glory! (Pt2)

I’ve received an overwhelming response since posting Part 1 of “My Story”…THANK YOU for taking the time to read it!

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Friday, January 12th 2007

I’m in ICU, have been for a couple of days…I have a 2yr old daughter and a husband whom I’ve only been married to for a minute, I’m 25yrs old and I’m dying!

Doctors are talking about cardiac arrest, renal failure and a host of other things if I don’t see a specialist neurologist immediately only…there aren’t any available to attend to me.

But God…

A Pastor we knew came to see me in ICU, he prayed for me, anointed me with oil and asked me to say the sinners prayer with him – well…since I couldn’t speak it was more grunting – but God heard me.

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Suddenly things are happening & I’m transferred to Milpark Hospital ICU where a specialist neurologist is waiting for me (FAVOUR right there). The next day my husband finds me sitting up in bed – not fully recovered BUT it’s a vast difference (Jehova Rapha) and within 2 weeks I’m out of ICU.

Doctor’s prognosis…

“The op needs to be reversed as soon as possible – the medication is only a short term solution and it’s not guaranteed – the problem is – your organs have taken strain and having major surgery is a great risk. You’re not going to find a doctor willing to take that risk!”

Impasse…

“There’s NO way I’m going back to being fat”…I would take the meds…I’d be ok…I’d live…right?!?

I did…I took the meds, (15-20 different tablets per day) and although the quality of life wasn’t great – I was alive, I was skinny (too skinny) and even fell pregnant with another baby girl!

Carrying a life but contemplating taking my own…

My pregnancy was agonizing – pain, complications and more pain!

Did I mention constant, breaking-out-in-cold-sweats-lying-awake-contemplating-suicide-PAIN?????

The pain was so bad – I considered aborting my baby – I couldn’t take it & ultimately had to undergo surgery at 19 weeks which relieved some pain…SOME!

I’d dropped another 20kgs during this time – weighing a meager 40kgs at 7 months pregnant – Aimee wasn’t doing well in utero  & had to be delivered prematurely – such a fighter though!

Every year I’d end up in ICU for a few weeks, this wasn’t a life, I wasn’t living,  wearing 9-10yr old clothing, my hair was falling out, my skin was dry and pale, my ribs & spine were protruding, I was withering away (the weight loss didn’t stop) and when it  dropped below 40kgs I had to be real…I had to undo this…I had to!

I’m smiling but inside I’m dying…

Thank you for reading Part 2…

PS: Part 3 is the finale I promise LOL!

Much Love xxx

Confidence 

  
“Confidence isn’t walking into a room knowing they’ll like you – It’s – I’ll be ok if they don’t!” 

And that is where I’m at at this point in my life. 

Darn! It took me long enough – almost 30years!!!!

And although my circle has decreased in size it’s increased in value. 

I know what I bring to any relationship/ friendship – be it friend, family, spouse. I no longer fret about who’s real and who’s not. And it’s made me a happier person. 

   
    
    
  
Jeans, shirt, neckpiece, sunnies, earrings – MrP | Shoes – Truworths | Lips – LA Girl matte gloss in Stunner. 

Fun Fashion Fact: 

“The average person owns 7 pairs of blue jeans.”

Stay Sassy xxx

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