Chaos and the Calm

  
I’ve had this song on repeat today. Maybe because that’s what I feel like sometimes. 

You know when you’re on a path to recovery and you’ve actually been breaking ground and out of nowhere, someone or something comes along that threatens to shake everything? 

Yeah! I’ve had to dig my heels in deep. I’m not going back there. Nope!!! Not ever!!! I might visit sometimes (LOL) but I ain’t staying! 

I’m working on myself for myself because I don’t want to be that girl. That girl who looks for validation in others. That girl who wants to be accepted. That girl who spends her days trying to prove herself. I refuse to go back!!!

This might shake me, but I won’t let it break me! 

   
    
    
    
    
    
 Jeans, sunnies & earrings – MrP | Top – Gifted | Shoes – Fashion Express | Beads – RogéroStyle

“The Lord will perfect that which concerns me.” Psalm 138:8

Stay Sassy xxx

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1 year older 


And a whole weekend of celebrations!

On Saturday I hosted a party to celebrate mine and hubby’s birthdays – mine was yesterday – yay me!!! and hubby’s is tomorrow – yay Bae!!! (Rhyming skills again – LOL).

The theme was “Gender Bender” – All my ladies came dressed as lads and guys came as girls and boy, was it fun!!!


  
  
  


  
  
 The guys really pulled out all the stops for this one and it was worth all the laughs! For once the ladies didn’t have to worry about hair and makeup and partying all night in ridiculously, high heels. Some of the guys actually have newfound respect for us ladies and all we go through to look our best – which brings me to my next point.

I’ve noticed a lot of woman 2 woman hate on social media. Girls dissing other girls for just about anything – she’s so skinny, she’s so fat, look what she’s wearing, look at her hair etc etc etc…like, what’s up with that?

Can we not admire another’s beauty without questioning our own? I honestly don’t know what I would do without the support of the women in my life and that includes people I’ve never met personally but gotten to know through social media. There are countless times when I was feeling some sort of way and I’d log onto Instagram or other and a post will just speak so much life into me. So why then do we choose to use our power and influence to bring our fellow sisters down? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

So, from tomorrow I’ll be posting a #woman2womanwednesday (It’s similar to the #WCW except that it’s exclusive to women – sorry guys!!!) I’ll be using this # every week to salute a woman of my choice – family/friend/follower  – anyone who I feel has inspired me at some point – because let’s be real – sometimes we just gotta hear the good stuff LOL!

So, ladies, please don’t be alarmed if I steal a pic and post some corny stuff about you hahahaha!

  
  
  
  

  
Jeans & Top – Mr Price I Sandals – Fashion Express I Sunnies – Cotton On I Beads – RogeroStyle I Lips – LA Girl Matte Lip in Stunner.

Quote of the Day: 

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. – Audrey Hepburn

Stay Sassy xxx

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Do you know what today is? 


(Singing in my Tony Toni Tone voice) – It’s our anniversary!!!!


Yep! 9 years ago I said I do to my BEST friend and 9 years later, I still do!

My husband and I started dating 2 days after my 17th birthday (his 19th birthday).

I knew from the moment we first met that he was very different to other guys. Apart from his charming good looks, ( wink) he had this “thing”about him, still has today. It’s this, I-don’t-care-what-people-think-about-me attitude and honestly, it’s what attracted me to him.

At 17 (and many years later) I was the complete opposite of this (what I thought), rebellious 19yr old boy. He lived in the moment, did what made him happy and never apologized for it. It was intriguing to say the least.

Today, after almost 16yrs as an item and 9 yrs of marriage, we’ve both changed and grown in many ways but he still has that “thing” about him. Although, not in a selfish, single guy kind of way, no, he still lives in the moment, only now, he lives to make his family happy – and still doesn’t apologize for it!

I would like to honour you today Brandon (this post is for you babe), beside the obvious; our 3 beautiful kids, the provision, the protection, the affection that you often have to fight for (sorry), you have loved me literally from thick to thin and back to thick again. Your love was constant, undeterred by the number on the scale.


You took care of me when I was as good as dead and you were right there when depression reared its ugly head (rhyming skills ha ha).

You are never afraid to let me & the rest of the  world know how much I mean to you. You love our children (and tease the heck out of them) unconditionally. You’ve taught me how to make my voice heard and how to say no when I need to. But most of all, I want to thank you for the laughs. You really do make me LOL and that’s my favorite thing.

Here’s to 91 more anniversaries with you babe ❤️

I love you more and more everyday (except yesterday, yesterday you were really annoying LOL). 

Is that a mush I see?

  
  

Mirror Mirror on the wall…


Are you happy with what you see when you look in the mirror?

Now, I’m not talking about your fabulous legs or your million dollar smile, no, I mean when you look long and hard – are you happy with the person you see looking back at you?

It recently hit me how far I’ve come in the last year. You see, a year ago I wasn’t in a very good place. Some relationships /friendships had gone sour and I felt betrayed. I allowed my feelings of betrayal to make me bitter and resentful and we all know how that just eats at you like poison.

I didn’t realize then what God was teaching me. I didn’t trust Him like I should’ve and my bitterness was a clear indication. Slowly, He showed me His plans and today I’m  grateful.

I’ve since forgiven  (even though the relationships might not have gone back to the way it was) , I’m moving forward with all the lessons learned. I can confidently say I’m stronger, wiser and better than my former self. Yes, I am (and forever will be) a work in progress but I do not despise the lessons learned, however small.

So, my answer would be yes, I am happy with what I see when I look in the mirror – because I am fearfully & wonderfully made!

 

  
  
  
  
  
Dress – Ackermans (old)

Sandals – Rockport (gifted)

Earrings – Mr P

Bangles – Truworths

Lips – LA Girl matte gloss in Tulle

Fun Fashion Fact:

” False eyelashes were first invented in 1916 when Hollywood producer, D.W. Griffith decided to enhance the eyelashes of Seena Owen for his film “Intolerance”. He wanted her eyelashes to brush her cheeks.These were made by a local wig maker using human hair woven through fine gauze.”

 

Thanks for stopping by and stay cute xxx

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Let’s take it back to the beach

  
   

  This song has been on repeat today, and judging from what I’m wearing, you can tell what my current mood is. 

Sun, sand and sea! That’s what I long for. It’s all I think about lately. I need a break from the hustle and bustle that is Johannesburg. 

Maybe it’s because we’re in the last quarter of 2015, maybe it’s because Spring has sprung, maybe I just haven’t been on vacay in a while, whatever the reason, I need it and want it! 

Better start planning then…

“a little sand between your toes always takes away your woes.” 

   
    
 Peasant top – Gifted

Ripped jeans – DIY (I bought the jeans at MRP and ripped them myself haha)

Sandals & hat – MrP 

Earrings – Truworths 

Lips – LA Girls matte in Tulle 

Fun Fashion Fact:

“Cotton fabric was used for clothing for over 7,000 years. Just one bale of cotton could make 215 pairs of jeans.”

Stay Cute xxx

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My Liebster Award Nomination

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Wow – Thank you Carly from BeYoutiful for Nominating me for the Liebster Award!

This is my 1st nomination of this kind…so let’s get to it then 😊

Here are the rules for this award…

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you with a link back to his/her blog
  2. Answer the questions asked by the nominator
  3. Nominate 5 – 10 bloggers with under 500 followers
  4. Create 10 questions for the nominees to answer.

1. What inspired you to start blogging?

 I want to inspire women, especially plus size women like myself.

I want them to know that Style AND Beauty comes in ALL shapes AND sizes.

2. How would you describe your blogging style?

 I have a very close friend who always tells me that I’m an extremist, so I’d say my

blogging style is a true reflection of me – there are days when it’s extremely chilled and

laid back and then there are days where I dig deep – I like to keep it real!

   3. What are your pet peeves when it comes to fashion?

 Fashion for plus size women is VERY limited. I wish retailers would wake up –

PLUS SIZE  WOMEN LIKE STYLISH CLOTHES TOO!

4. Name one blogger whom you look up to and why?

 I do love Chastity Garner from GarnerStyle – she is always on point with her outfits

and she doesn’t let her size hinder her style.

5. What are you wearing today?

Today I’m wearing a very comfortable dress I picked up from Mastik Couture – it’s grey in colour. I’m also wearing a pair of gladiator sandals I picked up from MrP as well as gold hoop earrings and a gold necklace also from MrP.

6. Favourite Song?

Mmmmmm – remember that I am an extremist?!?! So…my music taste varies A LOT but the last song I downloaded on iTunes is Flashlight by Jessie J.

7. Favourite Movie?

Ok, this is quite difficult but I’d say Dirty Dancing – Dont judge hahaha!

8. Ideal holiday destination?

Sun, Sand, blue waters, clear skies – that kinda thing!

9. One word to describe yourself ?

Quirky

10. Favourite time of the year?

I’m such a festive person – I love Chistmas – the carols playing everywhere you go, kids can’t contain their excitement, families and friends get together, there’s always an abundance of food and gifts – who doesn’t love gifts?!?!

Here are my questions for my nominees:

  1. What inspired you to start blogging?
  2. How did you come up with the name for your blog?
  3. Do you prefer high end stores or do you wear clothing from any store?
  4. How often do you shop for clothing?
  5. Do you have a set budget for clothing purchases?
  6. What is your ideal day out?
  7. Which part of your body do you love the most and why?
  8. How would you describe your fashion style?
  9. What/Who are you currently using to take pictures for your blog?
  10. If you had a clothing line what would you call it and why?

I nominate the following bloggers:

The Mrs Paulsen

Guess What Girls

Sisters and Stilettos

Lisa Bonafide

Through Shaded Eyes

Thank you once again BeYoutiful for the nomination and shoutout 💋

Fun Fashion Fact:

“Today it is common to see women and girls wear their hair short but decades ago, if a woman was spotted with short hair she was considered to be an unfaithful wife.”

Stay cute xxx

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Little Lotta 


Little Lotta was a nickname given to me when I was a little girl by an older cousin.

About Little Lotta…


Little Lotta Plump was a fictional character published by Harvey Comics, the same publishers of the famous Richie Rich comics. In fact, Little Lotta appeared in many Richie Rich adventures.


Lotta Plump, has an obsession with (drum roll…) food! Her insatiable appetite (being her defining characteristic) however, doesn’t make her on obese slob, but rather, the more Lotta eats, the stronger she becomes, giving rise to superhuman strength. Lotta is depicted as friendly, kind-hearted and readily uses her tremendous strength to do good.

Lotta has a boyfriend, Gerald, who is the complete opposite (physically). Gerald is a tiny, shy, nerdy-type of guy. Together with Lotta, the twosome go on many adventures.

About Lauren as Little Lotta…

I can’t tell you how much I hated that nickname (little Lotta)  when I was growing up  (mind you I didn’t care much for the person who gave it to me either).

Obviously my cousin was referencing my weight when he gave me the name (because everyone knows that all fat people spend their days stuffing their faces with copious amounts food right?!?!)  For years that name gave rise to many negative emotions, especially when I knew I’d be seeing said cousin.

It wasn’t until recently that I actually learned more about Little Lotta’s character. Like the fact that she was friendly and kind-hearted. Or the fact that she used her strength to good in her community. The fact that she didn’t care how silly she and Gerald looked together. Or that people thought he was diminutive and weak. Lotta didn’t let her bullies get the better of her. No, she did what she deemed good regardless of anyone’s opinion.

So to you, my ‘dear’ cousin, thank you for the nickname. I own it now.

I am indeed friendly and kind-hearted. I am now using my strength to uplift and inspire many women, especially in the Plus Size community. I don’t care that my husband weighs half of what I do, and I certainly don’t care if people think we look odd together. I will no longer allow bullies, like yourself, to diminish me for looking different. I AM DIFFERENT DAMNIT! I will continue doing what I deem good – regardless of anyone’s opinion (even Nicole Arbour’s) AND I’ll do in style!

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Style Breakdown:

Cardigan – PEP Stores

Top – Truworths

Ripped Jeans, earrings, necklace & bag – Mr P

Shoes – Makro_SA

Sunnies – China Town

Lips – LA Girls Matte gloss in Tulle

Hair – you know my signature bun by now!

Here’s a Fun Fashion Fact:

Napoleon wasn’t just about war. He contributed to fashion in many ways too. The reason we have buttons on the sleeves of our jackets is because Napoleon got tired of his soldiers wiping their noses on their sleeves. 

Hope you enjoyed this post!

Stay Cute xxx

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Me In the Middle…


[Disclosure: This is just Another Random thought!]

Have you ever felt “in the middle”?

I suppose we’ve all felt “in the middle” at some point in our lives, for some maybe being the middle child and living with “The Syndrome”, or being “in the middle” of a conflict (boy have I had my fair share of THAT) or just stuck in a place in your life/career or whatever where you’re just kinda in limbo – neither here nor there.
Yeah, I guess we can all bare witness to that sort of “in the middle”.
For a long time I’ve looked at myself as “in the middle” – an average-kind of girl. At school, I was an average student, I did ok I guess, I mean I never ever failed but I wasn’t top of my class either. In sport, I wasn’t great (I do get points for participation don’t I?!?!) but I didn’t suck either (I think LOL). I’m not the world’s greatest wife (although my husband would disagree – love you babe), I’m not the greatest mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, worker, blogger etc. I’m just “in the middle” and for a long time I felt that this was negative thing. A dark cloud that loomed over me, banishing me to a life of mediocrity.
But *What IF…
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘halfway’ to something great.
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘between’ – where you come from and where you’re headed to.
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘surrounded by’  – opportunity.
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘seperating’   – the old from the new.
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘enclosed by’ – Grace.
*What if ‘in the middle’ means ‘inserted’ – into a specific place and time to bring about change.
That’s how I feel about being ‘in the middle’ right now, no longer a negative thing but rather preperation, a period of reflection. I’m not where I’m supposed to be but I’m definitely not where I used to be.

Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.” Zechariah 4:10 (NLT)

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” Anonymous

“Never despise small beginnings, and don’t belittle your own accomplishments. Remember them and use them as inspiration as you go on to the next thing. When you venture outside your comfort zone, wherever the starting point may be, it’s kind of a big deal.” ~Chris Guillebeau

“Sometimes when you think you are done, it is just the edge of beginning. Probably that’s why we decide we’re done. It’s getting too scary. We are touching down onto something real. It is beyond the point when you think you are done that often something strong comes out.” ~Natalie Goldberg

“So never lose an opportunity of urging a practical beginning, however small, for it is wonderful how often in such matters the mustard-seed germinates and roots itself.” ~Florence Nightingale