Deliver ME from ME!

I’ve been on a journey of self discovery for most of the year (probably for most of my life hahahaha) – hence the sparse blog posts & #OOTDs or any sort of active social media life for that matter. 

It started with my spiritual walk, then having to relearn & reaffirm some truths about myself (especially after gaining back all the weight I lost last year) – I’m still learning – then came the decision to join the natural hair movement (NOT as easy as I assumed) –  spiritually, physically & mentally a lot was/is going on but the most prominent lesson I’m learning over and over is that I am my only hinderance. I am in my own way! 

My state of mind, the way I see myself – and I don’t just mean physically – it restricts me in every way in every area. Allowing fear, insecurities and a negative self image to cripple me. Constantly second guessing myself and doubting my abilities, living in a loop de loop of self-doubt & self shame. It’s time I break the cycle!!! 

I challenged myself to take these pics & do a blog post – totally unprepared – I had to get out of my own head , go against the grain, regardless of the weight I’ve gained or how I think I look with my big “boskop/kroeskop” because let me tell you, going natural has challenged every thought and every belief I had about myself, my appearance and my self image – Yes…hair…hair can do that!!! It’s a good thing though – it’s pushed me further out of my comfort zone – literally forcing me to embrace my truth! 

So with big arms, big hips and my now big hair – I smiled (a genuine happy smile) and posed for the camera! 

I’m big and that’s how I am right now. And this is who I am right now. And I want to live right now!!! I’m tired of hiding behind extra weight or heat damaged hair or jiggly thighs – constantly obsessing about the bathroom scale, shying away from cameras…NO… life is happening and I want to live it! 

This past week we said goodbye to 2 friends, 1 went to bed and never woke up – she wasn’t even 45yrs old – the other succumbed to injuries he sustained in a car crash – only 25yrs old – life is too short Lauren, quit fretting the small stuff! 

So this is me – boskoppy, saggy booby (I’m a mom of 3 & I probably could do with some new bras LoL – but good heavens who sets the prices for bras?!?!? – must be a man), big thighed & flabby armed – it’s me and it’s always going to be me, well, atleast physically maybe, BUT there’s another ME inside this ME and that ME is growing & learning everyday & in this moment, somehow, that’s enough! 


Leggings & Tunic: The Fix | Bag: MRP | Sandals: Gifted 

Lu 

xoxo 

Bata Shoes

Bata Shoes launched their new range called Insolia and I was so blessed to be spoiled with a pair in the loveliest deep red – yayness!!! 



Now, as a heavier girl, I tend to avoid heels as they can be quite uncomfortable and painful – I guess being heavier on my feet adds more pressure on the forefoot – BUT – as you can see, the shoe is designed to reduce forefoot pressure and allows for even weight distribution – and let me tell you – THEY AIN’T LYING Y’ALL!

I was able to dine and dance the night away in these babies with zero discomfort! I’ll definitely be adding a few pairs from the range to my shoe collection! 


Thank you to Bata Shoes for the spoil and for getting it precisely right with this design! 

Thanks for stopping by and stay sassy now! 

Lu xxx 

Style Inspiration – Beauticurve 

I fell in love with this top the moment I saw Rochelle Johnson from Beauticurve rocking it. I knew I had to have it but that meant actually having one made which was the best decision because that seemingly small idea was the catalyst to getting me off my behind and making my dream a reality.  Only God!!!

I approached my trusted tailor (now trusted friend) and had him make up this top for me. Since then Joe and I have designed (and re-designed) a few items and it’s exciting and exhilarating and scary all at the same time, but I’m loving it. (Watch this space My Plus Size sisters!). 

We added the cut out detail to the bottom of the top as well (to give it our own pizazz) and I’m quite pleased with the final product but I’d like to hear what my ladies out there think of the top, so please, holla at ya girl?!?


Top – DIY (well kinda ha ha!) | Jeans – MRP | Shoes – Makro | Sunnies – Cotton On 

Stay Sassy now xxx

Lu 

The Timeless Trench

 

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It has been a VERY long time since my last post but allow me to let you inside my head for a bit…

At the beginning of the year I decided that I would only pay for clothing that fit the following criteria:

  1. The item was a classic/timeless piece or
  2. It was something that I personally designed and
  3. It’s something that was tailor-made to fit me and
  4. Aim for quality over quantity

So in essence that meant that I really had to put a lot of thought into my purchases – no more adding items to cart just because!

Which brings me to this Timeless Trench Coat from the fabulous Fablane Online  – purchased at a ridiculously affordable price – absolute value for money because the quality is fantastic!

Trench Coat – Fablane Online | Leather-Look Leggings – China Mall | Tank Top – PnP Clothing| Heels – MrP | Sunnies – Cotton On

I love that it’s light-weight which is perfect for mid-season weather as well as layering for the colder days approaching . I went with an all black outfit to put emphasis on the coat and I think it worked well!

Thank you Michelle @ FabLane Online – you NEVER disappoint!

Stay tuned for more classic and unique items I’ve added to my wardrobe in the last few months…and stay sassy now!

Lu xxx

 

 

It’s my birthday & I’ll cry if I want to…

Happy Tears y’all, happy tears!!!

34 years old – whaaaaaaaaat?!?!? Didn’t I just turn 30 a minute ago!?!?!

I must admit though, I love getting older – no really – I do!!! When I think of the shy, scared, ashamed-of-some-extra-weight-girl I was back then compared to who I am now – wow!!!! Growth! 

Look, I’m not saying I’m on some Kanye West confidence level right now (ha ha) but I’m a hellavu lot more comfortable being me and that makes my heart happy! 

Skirt, shoes & earrings  – Truworths | Top & sunnies – Mr P | Choker – RogéroStyle
Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!

Stay Sassy now xxx

Lu

Wedding Bells!

Congratulations to my niece Kirsten & her now husband, Shannon, who tied the knot this past weekend!

What a memorable celebration – in fact, I’m still recovering, dancing all night left me rather sore and stiff (yes, I need to start working out, I know this!). 

Everything was absolutely perfect, the venue, the décor, the food was amazing, the wedding entourage looked absolutely stunning, not to mention the blushing bride- wow –  just perfect! 

Thank you Kirsten & Shannon, for allowing us to celebrate this day with you.   

I wish you a beautiful life together!






 


Thank you to Stacey @ MissBoss Couture for designing my beautiful dress. 

Lu xxx 

Attention Ladies 

I’d like to introduce you to an upcoming fashion designer who’ll be opening her store this weekend. So please pop in!!!

Blasting into Spring like!


Hello Beauties!

Notice I said “blasting” because honestly – I’m just tired of winter! Only a couple more days for Spring though! Yay!

It’s been quite warm recently, although there’s still a slight chill in the air with winter on its way out, especially in the early mornings but today I threw caution to the wind. 

I thought I’d probably be a little cold in sandals and an off shoulder dress but the rebel in me just couldn’t!!! Luckily it turned out to be a rather fine day so no blue toes over here – ha ha!

How cute is this dress though?!?! Another one of Fablane Online’s gems. You can check out her merchandise here


Dress – Fablane Online | Sandals & earrings – MRP | Headscarf – Gifted | Chocker – RogéroStyle

Stay Sassy xxx 

Lu 

Windy Days & Dresses 


Hey Beauties!

So…I chose the wrong day to wear a dress – it’s windy out here!!!


Also, please excuse the creases – I’ve been sitting at my desk waiting for an opportunity to take my pics…

Moving along swiftly…Hey, did I mention  I’m wearing a belt around my neck – ha ha! Yes, it’s supposed to be on the dress but I kinda liked it more around my neck…feeling all daring LOL! 

But on serious note – I like to experiment with accessories , a simple belt could be worn in many different ways, head, arm, neck, just play around and see what works best! 


Dress & Jacket – Truworths | Boots – Jet | Sunnies – MrP 

Stay Sassy Ladies xxx

Lu 

Black Friday!


Hey Beauties!

Hope you’re all having a fabulous Friday?!?

If you haven’t already noticed – I do love the colour black (even my hair) my brother calls me Wednesday Adams ha ha! Black is easy and lazy but mysterious at the same time – and we all know it gives the illusion of being slimmer!

The outfit actually went around the biker jacket which I’m totally in love with at the moment. It’s a bit of a challenge to find biker jackets in plus size that fits just right. I’ve got big upper arms so most of the time when I find a jacket that fits my arms it’s usually a little too long in length. I was quite excited that this one fit perfectly. 

I’m also crushing on these wrap chokers I purchased from RogéroStyle – they are so chic! 


Jacket & skirt – Truworths | Tank & Boots – PnP Clothing | Sunnies & earrings – MrP | Choker – RogéroStyle

Stay Sassy xxx

Lu

Honey, I’m home!!!


Hello There, allow me to introduce myself ha ha! 

I’ve been ghost for a while – Mom Duties – but boy did I miss blogging! So glad to be back!

Here’s what had me MIA!


Yes, it was my kid’s Drum Majorette Nationals Competitions and it was awesome! Brings me so much joy to watch her & the team on that field – the blood, sweat & tears that go into every march – gives me goosies everytime! 

Anyway, the outfit I’m wearing, this wasn’t the outfit I planned but I kinda, sorta overslept this morning so I literally just grabbed whatever was close – don’t judge me – winter has me snoozing through the most annoying alarm every morning – I’m just as surprised lol!




Coated Leggings – Always New (China Town) | Tank, Jacket, heels & neckpiece – MrP | Bag – Truworths 


Stay Sassy xxx

Lu