So Random…

Random facts about me…

  1. I LOVE God – He saved my life – for REAL though!
  2. I am the youngest of six children AND the only girl – so I’m a bit of a tomboy!
  3. My mom is my hero – my dad died a few months before I was born so she raised my siblings and I alone! Now THAT is courage!
  4. I’m married to my best friend – we’ve been an item for sixteen years and married for nine – he’s loved me through thick and thin – literally! We also share three beautiful children!
  5. All of my children’s names start with the letter A – I had a very thick baby name book – it was tiring just looking at it so I stopped at “A” ( I ain’t even gon’ lie!) LOL!
  6. I work for our family business so my dress style is very laid back- which I love!
  7. I have a gold tooth – my tooth broke in my teens and I kept filling it and it kept breaking so I had a gold tooth put in!
  8. I have two tattoos – the first was my star sign – Scorpion – and the other was just boredom – it’s a bird!
  9. I’ve been on a natural hair journey for about a year now – can someone say nappy!?!?!
  10. I’ve always been a big girl – then in 2005 I had weight-loss surgery and almost died – had it reversed and gained all the weight back and my health too!!!
  11. I’m learning to love the skin I’m in –  I’ve spent far too many years hating my body and treating it badly – ain’t nobody got time for that!
  12. I LOVE to laugh – and loud…anyone who knows me, knows I do it A LOT and often snort while laughing!
  13. I was blessed with very thick, unruly eyebrows, and hated them so much when I was growing up that I used to stick them down with paper glue – I know – WEIRD!!!! But I’ve grown – and I now thread and trim them every other week.
  14. Here in South-Africa I’m classed as a “Coloured” by race.
  15. I AM NOT A MORNING PERSON!!!
  16. Flats over heels any day!
  17. I started this blog to inspire women just like me, to love themselves – flaws and all!!!!!

   

    
    
    
    
    
    
    
 
“I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am not your expectations no no, I am not my hair, I am not this skin, I am a soul that lives within” India Arie 

Thanks for stopping by and stay Beautiful 💋

 

 

 

 

Coat, kicks + pigtails 

It’s winter y’all!!!!

  
And I’m so grateful to be alive! 

I was listening to a very touching story this morning, of a boy who has had such a tough life from the moment he was born. And the first thing I thought is how quick I am to complain about trivial things like the size of my thighs, or the jigglyness of my tummy, the cellulite on my butt etc. and yet, there are people who’ve never been able to enjoy watching the leaves fall from the trees in Autumn. There are people who’ve never been able to enjoy the sound of a thunderstorm while falling asleep. 

This boy has a bucket list, and the simplicity of it just broke my heart. 

  
Forgive me Lord for forgetting, at times, how lucky I am. To be alive and healthy, to have peace of mind, to have a healthy family, to be able to enjoy simple things together. May I always be mindful of life’s simple pleasures. 

   
    
    
   
Truworths leggings & top. Always New coat. Ackermans beanie. Nike shoes. MrP scarf. 

  
Be Beautiful 💋

Neutral Tones

  
Another windy day and as “Murphy” would have it, I’m wearing a dress…AGAIN!!! I really need to start checking the weather before getting dressed in the mornings. 

I’ve had this dress for a while now. I had it made by Fleur Fashion House. They make great contemporary clothing, you can check out their Facebook Page here.  

I love the organic fabric of this dress. It’s super comfy and of course, it’s made in one of my favorite colours! You could easily go from winter to summer in this dress with the right accessories. 

   

Why the frown?!?!?

  
    
    
   
Fleur Fashion House dress. MrP jacket, chain & earrings. Jet Boots. DKNY bag (gifted). China Town sunnies. 
  
Be Beautiful 💋

Who are You???

  
I’ve been second guessing myself a lot lately. Especially when it came to my body image. I would get dressed in the morning and take pics with the intention of blogging then look at the pics and delete them. I did this almost every day last week. And I had to stop and ask myself if the problem wasn’t actually with me. 

I had to do some digging. And this is what I came up with. 

  1. I gained a few kilos – I’d say about 5kgs, and it was playing with my mind. Even though my clothes still fit, I felt they didn’t look as good as before. See how I allowed that number on the scale to possess me? 

  2. I haven’t stayed true to me. When I started this blog a friend of mine sent me a text saying she didn’t really like the outfit I was wearing – she was giving me some constructive criticism- which I’m always happy to hear, but I realized then that this blog is among other things, about MY personal style as a FAT chic. There will be times when people won’t like what I’m wearing or how I put certain things together and that’s ok. The important thing is that I’m staying true to my personal style. We can’t please everyone ALL of the time! 

  3. I was comparing my style and blog to others. “Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt. We all know this and we’re all guilty of doing it. It just zaps the life right out of you without you even noticing it. 

So, after coming up with all of this, I had to reset myself mentally – yeah I actually do that regularly- It’s sort of like changing the filter on your coffee machine, I had to change the filter on my eyes. I promised myself to blog every time I take pics so here goes!!!!

Yesterday we spent the day at the JHB Zoo. It was family day and we were pleased to bump into my niece, her hubby and kids at the zoo. It made the day so much more fabulous. 

   
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
 Mr P top, white tank & leggings. PnP cardigan. Nike shoes. 

Never forget that No One can be more You than You!!!!

Be Beautiful 💋 

Well Hello There…

  
It’s been a very long time since I last blogged and how I’ve missed it! 

I’ve been in Bloemfontein with my daughter, their Drum Majorette Team made it to Nationals and (drum roll….) they won!!!!!!

Yes, they are the South African Presidents League Drum Majorette Champions!!!! Whoop whoop! I am such a proud Mom 😁

Anyway, that’s the reason for me being AWOL BUT I’m back and doing my thang!!!!

Today was thee worst day to wear a dress! I literally had to hold my dress down the entire time while taking these pics. I’m sure you can tell by my fly-away hair as well. Speaking of hair, I tried a little something different with my hair today. I usually just style it bone straight but today I added some volume and a few waves here and there and I actually like it! 

PS: never be afraid to try something new now and then. You might be pleasantly surprised! 

   
    
    
    
 Ackermans Dress, Truworths Denim Jacket, Jet Boots, MrP scarf. 

  
Be Beautiful 💋